Jack Kettering, LCMHC
I am a licensed clinical mental health counselor and I have been treating clients for over 9 years. I focus on treating individuals and couples. I tend to find that my adolescent clients open up fairly easily to me and I really enjoy working with clients in this age group. I also treat a lot of military men and women. Because I specialize in addiction, I see a lot of men and I tend to have a lot of success with helping men connect with their own emotions and overcome addiction. I also have a lot of success with enhancing couples’ relationships. Typically I end up feeling like I act as an interpreter for men and women to finally understand each other. I really enjoy helping couples enhance their relationship as they learn to rely on each other by creating their own team.
The Therapy Experience
The art of therapy is not just physically and mentally demanding, but it is also a spiritual, emotional, interpersonal and relational experience. I believe a person has to want to do therapy and as part of that, they have to feel like they want to come and see their therapist. They have to want to share and open up and trust and show up to deal with the parts of their life they have avoided for years. That is a difficult process. I believe that the person that is seeking therapy is wanting some guidance, direction, information, treatment, change, insight, help to experience and express emotions. Doing therapy can be hard, I think people want to have someone that they know is on their team to help them be curious and navigate the unknown. I do my best to help create that environment for each of my clients.
I create space for others to begin understanding themselves and doing the hard work of integrating and owning all the various aspects of themselves. Several clients have come to see me and have commented something to the effect of, “why haven’t other therapists been able to do this for me?” They also say things like, “Jack, coming to see you, I feel like I am sitting in your living room, sometimes I feel like I am just talking to one of my friends.”
I have been through both individual counseling and marital counseling. During that time I have had a hard time finding a therapist that works for me. I have found over the years that fitness, or the relationship that is created between client and therapist, is the most important part of therapy. I really believe that if the relationship isn’t there, then the rest of the tools and skills don’t matter.
Many therapists have the expertise to give tools that help you manage the issues that you may face. They love to ask what is going on and how can we manage the issue better. Sometimes they offer suggestions and give tools for increasing life satisfaction. My style is different in that I am interested not only in what is going on, but what are the roots of the issues? Sometimes this is a more difficult way of going about things, it takes time, effort and energy. But I have a lot of long lasting results with my clients.
I typically use a combination of therapeutic interventions. I believe that it is important for the client to truly be heard and understood. Sometimes there are issues that we face that are chronic that need to be managed. In my experience, giving voice to things that we think and feel, along with confronting some of those beliefs head on gives you a chance to question your own beliefs and potentially create new ones. I find, especially with my male clients that it is important to help them get more deeply connected with their emotions and understand what they are feeling so that they can more effectively communicate their wants and needs.
In therapist talk, this means is that I use a client focused collaborative approach with eclectic techniques including: CBT, EFT, Narrative therapy, EMDR, mindfulness techniques and motivational interviewing.
I grew up in southern California, but have lived in several states. After completing grad school in Florida, I moved to Las Vegas to work with an outpatient youth treatment center. Several years later, I decided to move to Utah where I currently reside. I feel like being an “outsider” to Utah culture has given me a unique perspective and outlook. Now living here for the past few years, I have gained more of an “insiders” perspective. That being said, I have come to see that both sides have their advantages and disadvantages. I share this, because I feel like it is important here in Utah to be able to find someone, especially a therapist, that can understand where you’re coming from.
Living in Las Vegas, I realized that I loved working with adolescents. But the company I worked for, didn’t work for me. I then moved to Utah and ended up working for a couple different companies. Working for LifeStar, I realized that I enjoyed doing treatment for addiction. Though I found what LifeStar did helpful for many, I realized that they had a good bit missing to help transform someone that is suffering from addiction to be able to fully connect with themselves, develop their relationship with their higher power and navigate the waters of a healthy sexual relationship with their partner. I also worked for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints for doing pre-mission evaluations and treatment for missionaries that came home early. Myself and one of my peers developed an adults molested as children group for men. I left that organization because I wanted to be able to better treat my clients and serve a broader community of people.
Through my own life I have personally sought counseling for several things ranging from body shame and dissatisfaction to addiction, anxiety, depression and navigating masculine cultural norms. The depth and breadth of my personal life along with my clinical training and rich treatment experience combine to create a well-rounded, experienced therapist.